Life In 19x19

Ok i have now read it all. I want to thank you all for your tips and review.
I played today at a Go club, first time i played someone in person in these last 5 years i think, it was great! But then i saw that i keep doing the same, i can attack, but i keep playing softly.
Reading your comments was ...

Thank you very much!
unfortunately, my internet got down just after i posted this, and it has been down since then, and it will down for one more week.
I will download this to study all you've said!

http://files.gokgs.com/games/2012/4/11/sylhor-wachap.sgf

I haven't played in around 5 years. (maybe 1 or 2 games only)
and i started to play again. The problem is i have the feeling im doing it all wrong.
I dont need my game analysed, just if you could give me a few tips about what to study, and ...