HermanHiddema wrote:You behaviour was unnecessary (you can win a game without completely destroying the opponent)
It was not even a matter of choice of behaviour, but the game naturally evolved into killing all. 13x13, H4, white opening established two central cutting lines dividing the board into four separate parts. From then on, killing some corner is the natural choice. If Black is careless, then every cut's ending near an edge kills two corners simultenously. Almost automatically, everything died.
For this kind of strategic development, you can only argue whether I should have deliberately made mistakes and let Black revive part of his killed groups. In serious games, as that game was, I consider such unethical.
I do not even understand the problem you are having with killing everything. When I was Black in handicap games, I was happy to learn much when losing badly. Losing badly is a great chance to learn much!
and obviously distressed your opponent (never came back).
I do not think so. What obviously (from the expression of his face) distressed him was how Japanese scoring was done or maybe how - in his opinion - it favoured the stronger player able to show the more interesting variations.
unnecessarily slaughtering a beginner is uncalled for.
He was already 13 kyu - not an absolute beginner any more. A 13 kyu must be able to tolerate losing part of his games badly.
Also see above.
In particular, I disagree completely. In a serious, serious strategy is called for.
No, see above.
That you have a different opinion on playing (or not playing?) serious games against beginners does not require to let it be a matter of ethics. Regardless of the scoring method used, every two players deciding to play a game can choose for themselves whether it shall be a serious game or a teaching game, whether teaching after the game is desired or not etc.
Verbal.
Ok, then I understand that you manage to explain them to beginners reasonably well for your perceived standards.