John Fairbairn wrote:..."doesn't matter about the people, so long as they've got lots of points of view I can understand".
Maybe I am confused...
I'm not trying to devalue the worth of people, but I don't really see what's wrong with this perspective. If I cannot understand why somebody does something, I want to come to understand their point of view. Before I can do this, I feel rather lost.
Discussion like this is useful because people can come to change their opinions. We can learn from one another. But that can't happen if we don't try to understand one another's view points.
John Fairbairn wrote:I believe that if you look at how people act as opposed to the point of view they express, you may still feel frustrated but you'll understand at a deeper level and be better placed to mesh yourself in.
This is a good point, but isn't what these people decide on a policy a reflection of how they act?
John Fairbairn wrote:...
Is it just because you are (for example) a short-tempered person?
I am not sure that I can answer that better than somebody else, because I only know myself and the feelings that I have.
However, I will say that I don't like putting people into categories (eg. "This person is grumpy.", "This person is helpful.", "This person is stupid.", etc.), because a person has control over their actions. I would rather say things like, "This person acted grumpy when he said this.", "This person was helpful to me when he did this.", etc..
But my behavior might sometimes be seen as short-tempered... I don't really know how to evaluate that well.
I guess since you suggested it, there's at least one person that thinks that I sometimes behave in a short-tempered way.