Re: Good job guys!
Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 11:54 pm
Don`t you think we should leave this alone for now?
We`ve presented good reasons for allowing accept/decline at the least, but ultimately we have no right to try to force Gabriel and Pato to change their minds. It`s their server, and they get to decide.
Besides, the harder you try to make somebody agree with you, the more they will resent it, even if you are correct. It`s not the end of the world if you cannot reject your challenger on Kaya. It could turn out, in practice, to have little impact on how enjoyable the server is to play. It could be that Gabriel and Pato are right, and we are wrong, and that their way makes the experience more enjoyable. If we give them space to change their minds without feeling cornered, then they might, but again, it`s their choice. It could be that we beat them into submission with iron bars of irrefutable logic, but do you think they would like that?
Respecting others` opinions and decisions, even when you disagree, indeed passionately disagree, is ultimately to respect yourself, because if you can acknowledge and defend their boundaries, you can also recognise and protect your own.
We`ve presented good reasons for allowing accept/decline at the least, but ultimately we have no right to try to force Gabriel and Pato to change their minds. It`s their server, and they get to decide.
Besides, the harder you try to make somebody agree with you, the more they will resent it, even if you are correct. It`s not the end of the world if you cannot reject your challenger on Kaya. It could turn out, in practice, to have little impact on how enjoyable the server is to play. It could be that Gabriel and Pato are right, and we are wrong, and that their way makes the experience more enjoyable. If we give them space to change their minds without feeling cornered, then they might, but again, it`s their choice. It could be that we beat them into submission with iron bars of irrefutable logic, but do you think they would like that?
Respecting others` opinions and decisions, even when you disagree, indeed passionately disagree, is ultimately to respect yourself, because if you can acknowledge and defend their boundaries, you can also recognise and protect your own.