I took the liberty to review your latest game. One of the problems is (mental) attachment to existing stones. Your post above shows positive attitude towards the game.
(;GM[1]FF[4]CA[UTF-8]AP[CGoban:3]ST[2]
RU[Japanese]SZ[19]KM[0.50]TM[1500]OT[5x30 byo-yomi]
PW[goffriller]PB[Vladimir]WR[8k]BR[9k]DT[2013-05-07]PC[The KGS Go Server at
http://www.gokgs.com/]C[goffriller [8k\]: HI,GG
Vladimir [9k\]: hi gg
]RE[W+40.50]
;B[pd]BL[1498.128]
;W[dp]WL[1496.926]
;B[pp]BL[1490.174]
;W[dc]WL[1487.443]
;B[ce]BL[1483.79]
;W[de]WL[1462.599]
;B[cf]BL[1478.036]
;W[cd]WL[1443.339]
;B[di]BL[1387.444]
;W[ck]WL[1424.234]
;B[cj]BL[1377.839]
;W[dk]WL[1420.505]
;B[ed]BL[1349.303]C[Toge: This move is peep, the exchange benefits black since white is effectively connected here anyway.]
;W[dd]WL[1380.511]
(;B[hd]BL[1340.536]C[Toge: Generally you should not try to save the peeping stone.]
;W[fd]WL[1345.452]
;B[ee]BL[1335.173]C[Toge: This is horrible. Black is driving white straight through his own stones, weakening C14 group in the process. White can give up F16 stone much more readily than black can C14 stones.]
;W[df]WL[1338.878]
;B[ef]BL[1318.575]
;W[cg]WL[1335.664]
;B[bg]BL[1311.632]
;W[bh]WL[1317.68]
;B[ch]BL[1216.914]
;W[dg]WL[1308.496]
;B[bi]BL[1208.934]
;W[bf]WL[1305.634]
;B[ag]BL[1202.62]
;W[be]WL[1293.542]
;B[eh]BL[1186.106]
;W[ec]WL[1266.142]
;B[fc]BL[1170.768]C[Toge: Black is not strong enough for this cut.]
;W[eg]WL[1251.412]
;B[ff]BL[1102.209]
;W[fg]WL[1247.077]C[Toge: White is driving straight through black groups. Huge success for him. You should think which stones are important for saving and connect them together.]
;B[gf]BL[1093.625]
;W[nc]WL[1200.669]
;B[lc]BL[1069.684]
;W[qc]WL[1177.608]
;B[pc]BL[1063.092]
;W[qd]WL[1175.414]
(;B[qe]BL[1059.796]C[Toge: This was overplay.]
;W[qb]WL[1171.246]
;B[pb]BL[1054.451]
;W[pe]WL[1168.357]
;B[oe]BL[1037.591]
;W[pf]WL[1163.816]
;B[qf]BL[1004.755]
;W[od]WL[1135.603]
;B[nd]BL[949.114]
;W[oc]WL[1105.119]
;B[mc]BL[861.607]
;W[ob]WL[1032.091]
(;B[of]BL[844.197]C[Toge: Squeezing out the toothpaste. This move helps white to get strong.
http://senseis.xmp.net/?SqueezingOutTheToothpaste]
;W[pg]WL[1026.951]
;B[qg]BL[832.143]
;W[ne]WL[1006.802]
;B[md]BL[802.381]
;W[og]WL[972.815]
;B[nf]BL[795.649]
;W[ng]WL[970.116]
;B[mf]BL[783.374]
;W[qh]WL[967.622]
;B[rh]BL[771.671]
;W[ri]WL[947.322]
;B[qi]BL[765.276]
;W[ph]WL[942.696]
;B[rj]BL[749.247]
;W[rg]WL[937.566]
;B[si]BL[736.038]
;W[re]WL[934.081]
;B[qm]BL[708.85]
;W[nq]WL[920.91]
;B[oq]BL[698.147]
;W[np]WL[915.343]
;B[fq]BL[683.614]
;W[dq]WL[883.411]
;B[iq]BL[673.076]
;W[kq]WL[869.573]
;B[io]BL[643.22]
;W[po]WL[830.801]
;B[qo]BL[636.919]
;W[op]WL[824.518]
;B[qq]BL[608.283]
;W[pr]WL[802.092]
;B[pq]BL[560.063]
;W[gg]WL[786.347]
;B[hg]BL[546.016]
;W[hf]WL[781.041]
;B[he]BL[518.478]
;W[if]WL[737.139]
;B[ge]BL[509.171]
;W[hh]WL[713.022]
;B[ig]BL[500.507]C[Toge: Always read ladder before playing it.]
;W[jg]WL[693.986]
;B[ih]BL[482.227]
;W[ii]WL[678.239]C[goffriller [8k\]: SOMEBODY IS WRONG
goffriller [8k\]: iv had these wrong before but i think i win this ladder
]
;B[ie]BL[416.576]
;W[jh]WL[675.305]
;B[mg]BL[396.339]
;W[or]WL[655.77]
;B[mh]BL[382.853]LB[fg:B][pg:A][cn:D][hp:C]C[Toge: There's no territory here. White stones at A are alive and so are stones at B. Interesting question is what happens to stones around C and how much of the area D becomes white territory.
Last comment.]
;W[fj]WL[638.354]
;B[fo]BL[352]
;W[bk]WL[630.819]
;B[dh]BL[312.81]
;W[bj]WL[598.994]
;B[dj]BL[301.067]
;W[ai]WL[581.761]
;B[ah]BL[260.029]
;W[aj]WL[570.662]
;B[ek]BL[254.294]
;W[af]WL[546.434]
;B[ej]BL[238.64]
;W[el]WL[537.351]
;B[fk]BL[229.753]
;W[fl]WL[516.533]
;B[gk]BL[208.643]
;W[bh]WL[505.872]
;B[gl]BL[197.514]
;W[qr]WL[498.596]
;B[rr]BL[176.604]
;W[oo]WL[468.467]
;B[sq]BL[166.581]
;W[ko]WL[427.796]
;B[km]BL[144.941]
;W[oj]WL[398.738]
;B[pk]BL[118.325]
;W[fb]WL[361.289]
;B[gc]BL[106.578]
;W[gb]WL[358.187]
;B[hb]BL[88.874]
;W[je]WL[349.363]
;B[jd]BL[79.918]
;W[ke]WL[330.303]
;B[kd]BL[73.477]
;W[dn]WL[306.592]
;B[do]BL[61.887]
;W[co]WL[304.253]
;B[eo]BL[59.299]
;W[cn]WL[286.16]
;B[fm]BL[49.924]
;W[em]WL[278.301]
;B[en]BL[32.471]
;W[ik]WL[252.833]
;B[il]BL[21.736]
;W[ok]WL[233.251]
;B[ol]BL[16.041]
;W[oi]WL[211.11]
;B[nl]BL[1.404]
;W[jr]WL[204.96]
;B[ir]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[er]WL[199.17]
;B[fr]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[jn]WL[181.78]
;B[im]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[in]WL[174.283]
;B[hn]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[pm]WL[140.961]
;B[pl]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[qn]WL[133.233]
;B[rn]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[pn]WL[124.453]
;B[ro]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[pj]WL[109.256]
;B[qj]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[jk]WL[95.667]
;B[kk]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[mb]WL[89.979]
;B[lb]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[nb]WL[79.17]
;B[ma]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[pa]WL[67.912]
;B[kp]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[jp]WL[47.64]
;B[lp]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[jo]WL[42.416]
;B[ip]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[jq]WL[34.31]
;B[mo]BL[30]OB[5]
;W[lq]WL[22.219]
;B[lo]BL[30]OB[4]
;W[ln]WL[6.278]
;B[mn]BL[30]OB[4]
;W[lm]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[mm]BL[30]OB[4]
;W[kn]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ll]BL[30]OB[4]
;W[jm]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[kl]BL[30]OB[4]
;W[jl]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[cp]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[bp]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[cq]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[cr]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[bq]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[aq]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[bo]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[br]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[bn]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[cm]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ga]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[eb]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ki]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[kj]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[lj]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[gi]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[jj]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[ij]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[nk]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[mq]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ni]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[pi]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[kh]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[le]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[me]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[hs]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[is]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[fs]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[hr]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[gs]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[gr]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[es]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[js]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[ks]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[kf]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[jf]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[kg]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[rs]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[sr]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[mr]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ji]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[gj]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[hk]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[hj]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[fh]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[gh]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[fi]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[gm]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[fn]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[hm]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[hl]BL[30]OB[3]C[Vladimir [9k\]: im so stupid

]
(;W[lf]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[lg]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[na]WL[30]OW[5]C[Vladimir [9k\]: you won either way
]
;B[la]BL[30]OB[3]C[goffriller [8k\]: sure, lets finish it
]
;W[fa]WL[30]OW[5]C[Vladimir [9k\]: sure
]
;B[ha]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[nj]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[mj]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[nh]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[mi]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[sg]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[sh]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[ci]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[gn]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[bi]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ep]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[]WL[30]OW[5]C[goffriller [8k\]: watch you clock
]
;B[ss]BL[30]OB[2]
;W[qs]WL[30]OW[5]C[Vladimir [9k\]: sorry
]
;B[]BL[30]OB[2]
;W[]WL[30]OW[5]TW[aa][ba][ca][da][ea][oa][qa][ra][sa][ab][bb][cb][db][pb][rb][sb][ac][bc][cc][pc][rc][sc][ad][bd][pd][rd][sd][ae][ce][qe][se][cf][qf][rf][sf][ag][bg][hg][ig][qg][ah][ih][oh][hi][ak][al][bl][cl][dl][am][bm][dm][an][bn][ao][bo][ap][cp][bq][cq][ar][dr][kr][lr][nr][as][bs][cs][ds][ls][ms][ns][os][ps]TB[ia][ja][ka][ib][jb][kb][hc][ic][jc][kc][fd][gd][id][fe][ne][lh][ei][li][ri][kj][sj][lk][mk][qk][rk][sk][ml][ql][rl][sl][gm][hm][rm][sm][sn][go][ho][so][fp][gp][hp][qp][rp][sp][gq][hq][rq]C[goffriller [8k\]: thx
Vladimir [9k\]: thank you
Toge [1d\]: I think I'll review this game for forum if that'a alright?
Vladimir [9k\]: sure
Vladimir [9k\]: i could put
Vladimir [9k\]: a ladder breaker
Vladimir [9k\]: down right
])
(;W[ci]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[lf]BL[30]OB[3]
;W[ei]WL[30]OW[5]))
(;B[pg]
;W[of]
;B[qh]C[Toge: This way protects right side.]
;W[md]C[Toge: One way to think about is just sacrificing stones if there's no good sequence.]))
(;B[pe]
;W[pb]
;B[ob]
;W[qb]
;B[oc]
;W[qf]C[Toge: Basic joseki.]))
(;B[pj]C[Toge: White's groups look rather healthy as do black's, so big move like sanrensei gives speed to the opening.]))