viewtopic.php?p=148327#p148327Bantari wrote:[list=1]
[*] Because your behavior led to a person leaving a club
Not my "behaviour", but "our common attempt to score according to Japanese rules by trying to assess life and death status" combined with my opponent's disliking of this kind of scoring or his difficulty to understand it or his difficulty to understand life and death or his related impatience.
so alienating them like you did is not good.
I have heard of beginners that left because of having been treated like dummies (stronger player letting them win easily). My opponent left because he was not treated like a dummy. Before a game against a much weaker player, the stronger player can choose to treat him softly or hard, or to ask him which treatment he prefers. I have seen beginners and advanced players complaining like mad when being asked such a question before the game, because they considered the question itself to be insulting.
I.e., one simply cannot do it right for all beginners, because everybody wants his preferred kind of treatment.
You can be really difficult and hard to take when you get into your Vulcan mode, which is what I think has happened in that case.
Wild speculations by you are off-topic.
once you notice where the game is going, you can always try to turn it into a teaching game, even an informal one.
I can, but I do not want to. Maybe it is beyond your imagination, but also I enjoy winning games. In a serious game, I have every right to my joy of winning the game well. Quite like my opponent has the same right. This competition for the win is what makes go so exciting. By no means would I want to remove this fun, just to please your preference for not crushing beginners in games in which it happens.
I cannot believe you got to be so much stronger than a 13k, a regular club goer, without running into such situation before, or without witnessing such situation before.
Such happened despite your missing belief:)
And if you have not
Indeed. It was the first experience of that kind. Simply because newcomers were rare at that time. Most would start at the same time in a university club course, so they shared a similar experience.
You never analyze the game afterwards?
Eh??? How on earth do you come to this absurd idea?
Quite contrarily, some analysis was the norm after most club games.
Just analyze the final position... I mean - really.
You misunderstand deliberately. We were busy in that stage and had not entered post-game analysis yet.