Thank you Bill and Ed for all this material !
so... before I saw all this, I started to think about that first question :
EdLee wrote:
did you consider the hane

?
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$$ | . . . . . O . . . . . X . O . O X . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . , . . . O X X X . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1 . . O . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
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[go]$$B
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$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . O . . . |
$$ | . . . . . O . . . . . X . O . O X . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . , . . . O X X X . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1 . . O . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |[/go]
and the first answer that went into my mind for white was to cut (maybe I'm traumatised

):
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$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . O . . . |
$$ | . . . . . O . . . . . X . O . O X . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . , . . . O X X X . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1 2 . O . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
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[go]$$B
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$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . O . . . |
$$ | . . . . . O . . . . . X . O . O X . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . , . . . O X X X . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1 2 . O . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |[/go]
but when placing a few real stone on the goban, I saw that

isn't that great
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$$ | . . . X . . . . . , . . . O X X X . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . a 1 2 3 O . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . . . . . . 4 5 . . . |
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[go]$$B
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$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . O . . . |
$$ | . . . . . O . . . . . X . O . O X . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . , . . . O X X X . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . a 1 2 3 O . . |
$$ | . . . X . . . . . . . . . . 4 5 . . . |
$$ | . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |[/go]
white

at 'a' doesn't work that well either... so I think my first fear to be cut by

isn't justified.
Now to the quality of

here :
$$W
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$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . 1 . . . |
$$ . . X . O . O X . . |
$$ , . . . . . X . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
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[go]$$W
$$ +-------------------+
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . 1 . . . |
$$ . . X . O . O X . . |
$$ , . . . . . X . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |[/go]
We talked a bit about this move at the end of the game with a stronger player (~3k) and he also told us that this was no a so good idea.
but... that was at least a move I was not used to... I think I would have played better if white played this one for example :
$$W
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$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . X . O . . 1 . . |
$$ , . . . . . X . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . a b . . |
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[go]$$W
$$ +-------------------+
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . X . O . . 1 . . |
$$ , . . . . . X . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . a b . . |[/go]
This a move a better know how to answer, especialy with a san-ren-sei, because I used to read pattern of the san-ren-sei and this move is taled in detail in this book.
I'm also quite confortable with

at 'b', but a bit less with 'a'.
To summarize :
So what I learned here is that this "snake" to the center is not "always" a bad idea, especially if both opponent groups on sides are weak.
Then, looking at Bill's variations, the key seems to be in fighting

instead of just trying to live like I did in the game (where I also misreaded a false eye)
Finally to come back to that 'a', I'm working on a Joseki I saw in a french book by fan-hui which is called "Cinq Proverbes" and that goes like this :
$$W
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$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . 2 6 1 8 . 9 . . |
$$ , . . 5 4 . X 7 . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . 3 . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ , . . . . . , . . . |
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[go]$$W
$$ --------------------+
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . 2 6 1 8 . 9 . . |
$$ , . . 5 4 . X 7 . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . 3 . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ . . . . . . . . . . |
$$ , . . . . . , . . . |[/go]
but I still don't understand each of the move... especially

... joseki and problems in this book are not that commented, some concept are presented, and then you have to work them by your own (which I like

...)