Here's a recent game of mine (1d level) where I discuss several moves up until 100 in terms of
If opponents lose against you and tell you you're too aggressive, then they must have been too defensive, otherwise they would have punished your overplays. Perhaps you were just playing aggressive in a reasonable way and they were upset with the loss.
All comments welcome.
(;GM[1]FF[4]CA[UTF-8]AP[CGoban:3]ST[2]
RU[Japanese]SZ[19]KM[0.50]TM[600]OT[5x30 byo-yomi]
PW[Artevelde]PB[kmae0828]WR[1d]BR[1k]DT[2015-11-17]PC[The KGS Go Server at
http://www.gokgs.com/]C[Artevelde [1d\]: hi
]RE[W+Resign]
;B[pd]BL[596.463]C[Artevelde [1d\]: enjoy
kmae0828 [1k\]: hi
]
;W[pp]WL[595.027]
;B[dd]BL[589.372]
;W[do]WL[575.431]
;B[jd]BL[586.615]
(;W[cf]WL[565.338]C[This is healthy aggression, challenging Black's claim to influence the centre]
(;B[ch]BL[584.162]C[Black does not obey and attacks White's stone by denying it an extension]
(;W[ef]WL[540.963]C[White resists and defends his stone. While tactically defensive, it is strategically offensive]
;B[fd]BL[576.544]
;W[di]WL[537.593]
(;B[dh]BL[548.185]
;W[eh]WL[533.306]
(;B[ci]BL[547.319]
;W[dj]WL[527.965]
;B[cj]BL[546.475]
;W[dk]WL[523.454]
;B[cl]BL[545.216]C[We get this pattern, where White gets the central influence at the expense of Black territory]
;W[em]WL[500.759]
;B[cm]BL[542.215]
;W[pj]WL[480.286]
;B[jp]BL[533.775]
;W[qf]WL[453.702]
;B[nd]BL[526.511]
;W[lq]WL[419.992]
;B[fq]BL[523.554]
;W[dq]WL[404.401]
;B[fo]BL[508.832]
(;W[lo]WL[379.295]C[claiming a bigger stake and not defending could be considered aggressive]
;B[bo]BL[491.145]
(;W[hp]WL[300.248]C[This counterattack is aggressive]
(;B[dn]BL[476.453]C[Black is als aggressive]
;W[en]WL[294]
;B[eo]BL[474.989]
;W[co]WL[283.772]
;B[bn]BL[464.376]
;W[bp]WL[274.523]
;B[dr]BL[448.286]
;W[cr]WL[268.287]
;B[eq]BL[438.492]
;W[er]WL[248.032]
;B[dp]BL[434.867]
;W[cq]WL[243.916]
;B[fr]BL[427.526]
;W[ds]WL[240.327]
;B[iq]BL[407.377]
;W[jn]WL[171.817]
;B[ko]BL[399.341]
;W[kn]WL[167.777]
;B[ln]BL[398.101]C[cutting here is very aggressive and probably unreasonable but Black feels he has fallen behind]
;W[mo]WL[159.918]
;B[lm]BL[395.447]
;W[kl]WL[101.557]
;B[mk]BL[385.221]
(;W[jr]WL[66.627]C[this move attacks Black's base and can be considered aggressive]
;B[ir]BL[380.741]
;W[hm]WL[30]OW[5]C[this is a defensive move, linking up my groups, while threatening to reduce Black's eyespace
so it is deceptively defensice]
;B[gn]BL[372.566]
;W[gm]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[kr]BL[362.317]
;W[kq]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[jq]BL[359.154]
;W[lr]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[js]BL[356.371]
;W[ld]WL[30]OW[5]LB[mk:A]C[this is an aggressive move, creating a new fight, aiming at attacking the black group at A on a large scale]
(;B[ke]BL[352.097]C[Black plays an aggressive move against the white stone]
;W[le]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[lf]BL[349.05]
;W[mf]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[me]BL[347.239]C[Black continues to play aggressively and in my opinion this is correct]
;W[lb]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[jb]BL[344.722]
;W[oc]WL[30]OW[5]C[White has no choice here but to follow a defensive pattern]
;B[od]BL[342.796]
;W[md]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ne]BL[336.385]
;W[nc]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[pc]BL[335.069]
;W[pb]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[qb]BL[334.256]
;W[oa]WL[30]OW[5]C[this well known middle game pattern comes to an end]
;B[qh]BL[322.802]LB[mf:A]C[Black uses his acquired influence to play an aggressive move, separating the white stones, but it is deceptively aggressive because Black also needs to care about his stones which are cut off by A]
;W[ph]WL[30]OW[5]C[although this is tactically aggressive, White is really aiming for a trade]
(;B[qg]BL[319.688]
;W[pg]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[qi]BL[318.952]
;W[pi]WL[30]OW[5]C[White connects and is essentially defensive here]
(;B[qj]BL[311.567]C[Black is being aggressive, denying territory on the right side]
;W[pf]WL[30]OW[5]LB[mf:A][qk:B]C[this is an aggressive move by White, aiming to activate the cut at A and attack Black's corner, while threatening B]
;B[pk]BL[286.044]
;W[ok]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[pl]BL[282.614]
;W[ol]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[pm]BL[280.724]C[Black continues to be aggressive, ignoring the threat above and scooping out territory]
;W[om]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[pn]BL[276.985]
(;W[oo]WL[30]OW[5]C[this is a defensive move by White, linking up, and it is perhaps e mistake]
(;B[qa]BL[267.28]C[this is too aggressive by Black]
;W[lg]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[kf]BL[264.046]
(;W[rd]WL[30]OW[5]C[White gets a chance to counterattack and will eventually kill black]
;B[ob]BL[252.677]
;W[nb]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[pa]BL[251.887]
;W[ob]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[rc]BL[246.582]
;W[qd]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[qc]BL[240.247]
;W[kb]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[kc]BL[226.31]
;W[lc]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ka]BL[213.331]
;W[la]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[nf]BL[198.114]
;W[mg]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ng]BL[197.364]
;W[mi]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[nh]BL[186.793]
;W[ni]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[mh]BL[184.582]
;W[lh]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[li]BL[182.659]
;W[jg]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ki]BL[177.554]
;W[jh]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ij]BL[172.936]
;W[hh]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[gj]BL[158.264]
;W[fi]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[kk]BL[124.795]
;W[ll]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[ml]BL[121.805]
;W[jl]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[on]BL[113.42]
;W[nn]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[nm]BL[109.984]
;W[lk]WL[30]OW[5]
;B[mj]BL[103.251]
;W[lj]WL[30]OW[5]C[kmae0828 [1k\]: ty
Artevelde [1d\]: thanks
])
(;W[kb]C[this would be passive]
;B[rd]C[black lives]))
(;B[rd]C[Black should defend his stones first here and threaten to link up]
;W[rf]
;B[qa]C[then live by threatening White]))
(;W[rd]C[White should first play here to deny Black a base]))
(;B[pf]
;W[qj]C[this would not be a good result for Black]))
(;B[pi]
;W[oi]
;B[qi]
;W[qj]
;B[pg]
;W[oh]
;B[qg]
;W[og]
;B[pf]
;W[lg]
;B[kf]
;W[oj]))
(;B[le]
;W[me]
;B[md]
;W[ke]
;B[lc]
;W[lf]
;B[kc]C[Black is passive and defends his territory]
;W[of]C[White links up and now the black group is facing white stones all over the place]))
(;W[kj]C[this would be more defensive])
(;W[ll]
;B[ml]
;W[mm]
;B[mn]
;W[nm]
;B[nn]C[this cut would damage White's bottom and I think it is unreasonable]))
(;B[hq]C[this would be more defensive (and probably better)]))
(;W[eo]C[I could defend here but this would be passive]
;B[fn]
;W[dm]
;B[jn]C[White has connected along neutral points, Black gets a nice territory]))
(;W[bn]C[This would defend my corner stones])
(;W[eo]
;B[fn]
;W[dm]C[this would be passive]))
(;B[ei]C[Black can cut but this is unreasonable]
;W[ci]
;B[eg]
;W[fh]
;B[dg]
;W[fg]
;B[df]
;W[bh]
;B[de]
;W[ej]C[White gets a very good result with this ladder]))
(;B[ce]C[Black can sacrifice his stone]
;W[ci]
;B[bf]
;W[cg]
;B[bg]
;W[bh]C[and gain good territory, but White's strength now dominates the lower half of the board; this was too passive by Black]))
(;W[cc]C[White can sacrifice his stone]
;B[cd]
;W[dc]
;B[ed]
;W[bd]
;B[be]
;W[bc]
;B[ce]
;W[fc]C[Now Black still gets his original intention, at the expense of White territory at the top])
(;W[cj]C[If White counterattacks here]
;B[dg]LB[cj:A]C[then the original approach stone is under attack
also, White's stone at A will likely end up too close to Black's strength
this is probably a bit too aggressive
]))
(;B[fd]C[if black obeys]
;W[dj]C[White has successfully challenged Black's influence])
(;B[dq]C[This would probably be too aggressive]
;W[fp]
;B[co]
;W[cn]
;B[cp]
;W[dn]
;B[fr]
;W[fc]C[Black's original star point formation is damaged and Black's strategy is inconsistent]))
(;W[fc]C[This would be considered an overplay in the opening]
;B[ec]
;W[fd]
;B[df]
;W[hc]C[White is already struggling])
(;W[dq]C[This would be a calm move, letting Black extend from his 3 star point formation]))