hyperpape wrote:
Indeed. Whenever I'm speaking with someone I know is a bit prejudiced, I like to correct them and make sure they're using any of the relevant slurs. It really is better to keep everything in the open.
What you do with your prejudiced friend is a good example of what I meant.
Instead of correcting his words, you should talk about his ideas, and try to change those ideas. If the ideas remain, it really does not matter which word he/she uses - it will still sound offensive and it will still be meant put somebody down. And if you continue correcting the words, your friend will end up with an ever-growing list of words he cannot use to express his/her ideas in your presence... This leads to frustration, and guess what outlet this frustration will take? I bet you his prejudiced ideas get even more prejudiced, because "its all because of those darned Whoevers, they are so fussy, make my life messed up, I hate them..."
Eventually, this leads to loss of friendship, one way or another.
I think the important word here is not 'correct them', but rather 'explain to them'.
Words can hurt, true, but only because we make them hurtful. Otherwise, they're just dumb words, sweet and cute, with no evil intentions whatsoever...