@topazg - greed, I think... he probably thought (correctly imo) that he could live without giving me the monkey jump.
@iazzi - yes, you're right that he should have pulled back, and even after that mistake, had N14 not been available, there's the L18 ko. At first I thought that my hane was itself a mistake and that I could have forced the same sequence with a clamp, but that runs into a shortage of liberties problem.
In the game I sort of lazily hoped that after N14, I could connect in a way that threatened the white group below, but after the game I discovered that that was crazy.